Friends & Love Relationship

Boring Life -- Yes !! But still let me blog a lil abt today :)

GEK lecture on Friends & Love Relationship..
Let me share abit on what i have learn today

Important in building friendship relationship:
1) Investing time
2) Developing emotional closeness
3) Accept your friend -- the way he/she is
4) Trust
5) Support -- Encouragement/Endorsement
6) Common Expectation and Value

Friendship relationship do develop through stages. It may be built up to obtain a stronger level, however, it may deteriorate too. Thus, through the development stages, we have to keep to the ground ruls, be aware of all internal & external tensions. Never Ignore & Neglect those feelings. We have to face the tensions & work the problems out. Therefore, to ensure that, communicating honestly and reciprocal understanding have to be reached.

There are various needs that we will want from a friend:
1) Utility Value
2) Affirmation Value
3) Ego-Support Value
4) Stimulation Value
5) Security Value

Yes !! Everyone wants to feel a need as a person. Wants to be worthy and need friends to affirm your worthiness. So, Dont hestitate anymore. Tell your friends how you appreciates their presence and assured them that they are worthy :)

There are different definition of love. Sternberg(1988) states that, initimacy, passion & commitments would bring about Complete Love. Do you practice that in your love relationship with the oppo party ??

Similarly, Love relationship does differ:

Eros - Beauty and Sexuality
Ludus - Entertainment and Excitement
Storgic - Peaceful and Slow
Pragma - Practical and Traditional
Mania - Elation and Depression
Agape - Compassionate and Selfless

So where do your love relationship lies at ?? Heex !!

It is known that, man are more rational and erotic, while women are more manic, pragmatic and storgic. What do you think ??

Thanks to Dr Vasoo on the above informations (,")

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After the Friends & Love relationship lecture, Ching taught me more.
Hahaz !! I always get free lectures from korkor & my gurls :P

She told me:"Never fell in love too deeply for a person until he accepts you as his gf. Cos you will never know when he will turn back and tell u 'its best for us to stay as friends'..Guys always does that. This is to prevent yourself from getting too hurt and resulting in you being unable to pull out from the situation."

And i was so tired that i stared into space & stone. Funny Ching tap me & say:"Dont worry so much about this. Dont think so much kkz."

Hahaz !! I wasnt thinking...i guess...and next moment i was dozing off at the benches le. :P
Nice Nap Nap !!
Life carries on with Project Meetings -- Tutorials -- Lectures !!
Nice Journey Home*