90% of life is decided by how you react

Received a very meaningful email & so I forwarded it out to many of my friends.

Not that I wanted them to read it, but I cannot rule out the chance that some may love it and find it meaningful too like I do ^_^

For many of the others that have not received it, I shall briefly touched on it here at my lil-blog of mine =)

Author Stephen Covey discovered the 90/10 principle of life.

He said:

10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react...

I totally agree with what he said !!!

We have NO control over this 10%, while we determine the 90% by our very own reaction.

Story goes like this:

During breakfast, your daughter knocks into a cup of coffee & it spilled over your business shirt.

You have no control over what has just happened. What happens next, will depends on how you react:

Scenario 1:

You scolded your daughter & she breaks down into tears.

Scolded your wife & a short battle follows.

You storm up and change out your shirt.

COming down finding that your daughter is still crying instead of eating her breakfast & preparing for school.

She missed the bus & you sent her to school.

Driving at a high speed = Got a fine.

Your daughter ran off to school without saying bye.

You are late for work.

You forgot your briefcase.

Looking forward to going home *cos started off with a bad day*

Arrived home: Find a small wedge in your r/s with your wife & daughter due to the morning's incident.

WHY ???

a) Did the coffee cause it?
b) Did your daughter cause it?
c) Did the policeman cause it?
d) Did YOU cause it?

Answer: YOU ! Your reaction caused the bad day.

Scenario 2:

Your daughter knocks over the cup & it spilled over your shirt.

You gently say: Its ok honey. You just need to be more careful next time.

You went up and change out. Grab your briefcase in time to see your daughter leave for her school bus.

She turns & waves.

You arrived early for work.

Moral of the story:

2 different scenarios. Both started the same but ended differently.

Because of how you reacted. (90%)

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Thinking back...Was thinking...

Most of the time, if I were to react differently to situations.

It might saved us from quarrelling.

Saved me from heartaches & shivers.

Saved us from any unhappiness / hours spent / tears wasted

A smoother route in the r/s

Lesser unwanted memories that also equates to higher confidence level & less 胡思乱想-ness

If and only if I were that *great* up there...

If and only if I'm the perfect one...

If and only if I'm that good...

If and only if I'm fast in reacting...correctly & accurately

If and only if I don't spaced off...

There is so much of if and only if ... Hah !

Jia you ba XiaoQian !!! *smiles always*

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yea thats the spirit =)

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一句良言：一失足成千古恨，再回首已百年身。

比喻一旦犯下严重错误或堕落，就成为终身的憾事。 再想回头重来时却发现容颜已老，早已无法再来一次。

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